Quoting Jacques Derrida - about the mourning

Source: http://www.humanities.uci.edu/remembering_jd/#top

"Is the most distressing, or even the most deadly infidelity, that of a possible mourning which would interiorize within us the image, idol, or ideal of the other who is dead and lives only in us?

Or is it that of the impossible mourning which...refuses to take the other within oneself, as in the tomb of some nascissism?"

Jacques Derrida

Memoires for Paul De Man